i found this article while i was procrastinating of course! it has a list of 30 things that you shouldn't do if you want to move forward and progress in life. i really loved it and it made me realize how many of these i'm guilty of doing and are probably why i feel like i'm in a rut right now, so here they are (i added my insights to some...sorry this is so long...this is like my journal):
1. stop spending time with the wrong people.
2. stop running from your problems. i do this a lot. i ignore things i need to do. i ignore things that scare me. i should probably stop doing this.
3. stop lying to yourself.
4. stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
5. stop trying to be someone you're not.
6. stop trying to hold onto the past.
7. stop being scared to make a mistake. i am terrified of doing this. not that i don't make mistakes. i make plenty of mistakes. but i still get scared to make them. i think about all the mistakes i could possibly make, big or small, before i make every decision. it takes a lot of energy to do this. too much energy.
8. stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
9. stop trying to buy happiness. i think most people fall into this problem. i always think to myself "ohh when i have more than $100 in my bank account life will be so much easier!" or "oh my gosh i need those pants..my outfits will be so much cuter and therefore i will be way happier when i get those pants!" problem is...that's so not true. i definitely need to work on this!
10. stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
11. stop being idle.
12. stop thinking you're not ready. this is something i really have struggled with lately as i get closer to graduating college and having to become a real adult in the real world. i don't feel like i'm ready to leave provo, but i also don't feel like i'm in the position to stay here. i don't feel ready to support myself entirely or have a career. but, i know that i need to be heading in this direction, so i need to convince myself i'm ready!
13. stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
14. stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn't work.
15. stop trying to compete against everyone else. i'm not a very competitive person but i once heard someone say that we need to not compare our behind-the-scenes to everyone else's highlight reel. otherwise, we get a misconstrued picture of what we think our lives "should" be like. facebook/twitter/instagram/blogs so do not help with this!
16. stop being jealous of others.
17. stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. the month of october was one of those times when you just say "when it rains...it pours" it really really poured. and for far too long i was feeling sorry for myself instead of putting things into perspective and realizing that these trials were sent to me for a reason and that i have been truly blessed in this life and that this was just a blip in the big scheme of things!
18. stop holding grudges.
19. stop letting others bring you down to their level.
20. stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
21. stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
22. stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.
23. stop trying to make things perfect. i am a perfectionist with a lot of things, not all things. this is proved to be a real challenge for me. i spend way too much time working on things that really don't need to be "perfect". this article said it best, "the real world doesn't reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done."
24. stop following the path of least resistance. i have to quote what this article said with this one, because it's exactly how i feel about this, "Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. don't take the easy way out. do something extraordinary."
25. stop acting like everything is fine if it isn't.
26. stop blaming others for your troubles.
27. stop trying to be everything to everyone. this article says "narrow your focus", yeah, i need to do that. I have so many...too many...dreams for my life and instead of working hard to make a few of them happen, i distribute my effort into all of them and end up achieving...none.
28. stop worrying so much. i have always been a worrier. always. when i was in elementary school my mom got me a "worry stone" as a joke because i seriously worry that much. i stress about anything and everything, things that don't even really affect me, things that are completely out of my control, things that don't really matter...honestly it's endless. and it truly does me no good.
29. stop focusing on what you don't want to happen. two words: POSITIVE THINKING!
30. stop being ungrateful. i'm not great at this, but in my prayers i try to really express gratitude to my heavenly father and i am big on thank you notes and making sure people know i appreciate them...but, i can certainly work on this! gratitude brings so much happiness to your life and makes all your problems seem so insignificant! no better remedy for sadness, anger, frustration or hate than gratitude!
i'm sure that no one made it to the bottom. this was mostly for me. the end of the year, although cliche, is a great time to evaluate my life and decide what needs to change or what i need to work on. not to mention, this gave me a solid thirty minutes of procrastination which is always good!